A good morning chat
I have known Jackie (another SAHM since 2 years back) for some time but we had not had a chance to sit down and really chat. This morning she she baked these little puffs and and I went to her place for nice breakfast. The puffs taste really yummy and Jackie even let me “tapau the rest” back for my kids! Will surely try making this one day as they are very easy to make too (will put that in another post later, as this post is not about the puffs anyway).
Challenging days at home, being a SAHM
We chat about the kids (she has a pair of twins too, but the girls are already in their teen), we talked about education and school (where she shared how she got actively involved in PIBG, hoping to change fate of the kids in Chinese School but unfortunately its not like what she thought, how a mum actually went there daily to wash the toilet for the sake of her schooling kid, and how the pressure system grabbed away her girl’s cheerfulness and she eventually put them into Kebangsaan school instead). We also talked about the kids at home, and she shared about the twins character, how different they are, how they fight, and such. I see the similarity of characters in my twins behaviour in her grown up twins too so I can foresee how my future road will be with mykids.
Oh yes, we talked about hubby too, and I was so relief to hear that we share the same fate too (having the exactly same “species” hubby who are so homely and will not just leave their kids to have honeymoon with their wife, weird eh??)
Although very homely, our men is not willing to take charge or help with the kids while being at home, but will just sit aside to watch or sleep in front of the TV and be happy as long as all the children are in the same roof, with the wife taking charge like a mad woman, yelling madly behind chasing after the kids.
Well, hubby used to say that I’ll be able to go anywhere I want once the kids grown up, but according to Jackie, “Nah..very unlikely” because her girls are already in teens, and yet the husband still prefers the mother to be with the children all time. I think it’s because men like these hardly goes out with their friends, so they think socialize is not really needed and they prefer their women not leave their children behind either. Too bad they married the wrong women, as we are born WILD, frequently screaming deep inside despite being caged at home. LOL!!!
Funny that these men thinks that it is always ONE BIG HAPPY FAMILY as long as they are together ALL TIME!!! Anyone has hubby like that too out there?
Although it was just a short sharing over a cup of coffee, its feels really good to know that at least I am not alone, in this crazy part of the world, being so stuck at home with the kids, and having to stay so far away from friends. Thanks Jackie and thanks a lot to your YUMMY puffs too!
Maybe man will change when the wife become a SAHM. As both me & hb are working. So to be fair he will give some help to take care the children. I wonder will he change if I become a SAHM.
err..my hubs goes out with friends too and when he’s home, he’ll prefer the tv or computer and seldom help to take care of the kid. however, he will do some housework. When it comes to socializing for the wife, he encourages me to go out lah but take the kid along…muahahhahahahahhahhahha
Hi Chin Nee, I just become a SAHM last month after years of working. Frankly speaking, I am not very used to the life style as a SAHM yet. However for the kids, I hope I will get use to it soon. Hubby always help out in housework and I am in charge in taking care of our 3 kids, be it study/homework/exam or their food/bath etc. Not much changes since I become SAHM except that he has less house chores now as I have done some during day times.
That’s nice. Were the kids with you? It’s good to have a network of friends who are in similar shoes, so that you can share experiences and even woes together. Keeps one sane. My hubs is completely opposite - equally a social butterfly like his wife haha. So we take turns going out LOL
My husband is a total opposite. He encourages me to go out more often with friends. It has been a year plus since I become a SAHM, and I might appear a bit naggy at times and that’s why his suggestion to go out more to reduce my nagging gua. Hahaha..
My hubby is a total opposite. He always encourage me to go out with friends more often. It has been a year plus since I become a SAHM. It might appear to him that I tend to get naggy at times and that’s why he wants me to go out more to minimise the nagging. Hahaha…
For us, we do everything together…with kids tagging along as well. Sending kids to school, lunch/dinner with friends, shopping or even doing errands….basically everything la. Good that my hubs does not like to watch TV or football…hehe.
my hub always goes out with his friend for a movie or teh tarik every Sat night leaving me with the kids. In his mouth, he only said bring the kids along la….but you know how difficult and he only goes out at 9pm - late ! But Sun, he will either stay at home or we go out together for b’fast, than a short window shopping.
I think it’s important to strike a balance. Both hubby and I work, so we try to have time with the girls, also time on our own - when we go out for dinner with friends or just a movie, and some ‘me’ time as well. My hubby does help with housework too, esp the cooking which is good for our girls to see that housework and cooking is not a woman’s job, but shared.
I guess I should say YES, my hubby is exactly the same species with yours. He simply loves to watch TV very much…
Glad u had the time to do that. It’s important for a SAHM to have “me” time and time to hang out with girlfriends once in a while. Keeps one sane..
I am FTWM. My hubby shares the burden. He can also ( though not quite willingly) take care of children when I want to go out shopping with my sister when daughters can start solid food but I got to bring along baby when I’m stii BF as both him andI am no confident baby can still be comforted by him without BF.