“Life is to short to be wasted like that”
““Life is to short to be wasted like that”
In fact, that’s how exactly I feel too. I no longer create scenes of a “Yelling Mad Woman” at home anymore. Grown out of this habit, which I think is really unnecessary and very energy draining. But it just somehow makes me feel sad and unappreciated especially the sacrificed I made to stay at home with my kids, struggle and mentally torture every single minute listening to their cries and never ending fights.
I feel that sometimes SAH-Wifes are easily taken granted by their husbands. Thinking that the wife will be at home no matter what, since they are stuck at home with the kids. We do not have babysitters so we can walk out a while to cool down. We are so unlike the women who goes out to work, dressing up so nicely everyday , hang out with just anyone they like that could possibly make their husband dying of jealousy everyday. No wonder my grandparents, friends who were already SAHM, were so against the idea of me being a Full Time mother. Now it makes sense.
I just received a SMS declaring that the cold war was over, plus “some sweet note” ending the message, after ONE WHOLE FU*KING WEEK! Unfortunately it came too late and now it sounds very sour. How I wish that I can just walk out of the door at this moment and reward myself with some good FUN and get over with it. With my strong will character, I DEFINTELY WILL (still even more f*cking burning at this moment), once the kids are older and do not need me at home anymore (so don’t be surprise when you see Chin nee giving you a buzz for a tea out of sudden!) *wink*
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Wow… good for u for breaking that habit! I’m still the Yelling Mad Woman at home.
I know it’s not good, but really can’t help it ler when the kids can’t hear or hv no reaction if I dun shout. 
CN, sometimes in the office is AS BAD too. Just like factory, the supervisor just scream at those operators! Bosses just give you problem after problem. But I guess we have mature enough to understand that things need not be taken for granted. We are not 18/22 that are childish thinking.
I’m glad that everything OK. get him to pamper u with a day off la.
Will you consider sitting down to talk about it? Most of the times, it’s misunderstanding on both sides. Cool down and think about it. No point keeping the resentment inside because it spoils the marriage.
Hugs! Call me anytime!
call me la. I also have moment like that when I feel like just walking out to cool down.. not so much of hubby though..because of the children driving me nuts and I do not wish to scold, scream & nag when they are not ready.
hugs…hope you are OK. Don’t bother too much with them lah, they memang all PIGS LOL. Work is also stress one ler, you want or not, everyday from 830 work till 7pm, still gotta go home fetch kids, entertain them, put them to sleep and restart the routine next day…phew, exhausted!! I do this day in day out for 6 weeks, and my other half only do it 2 weeks already he raise white flag. That’s why we all know, you are a super mom
Me n hb both working. But after coming home from work hor, he can just go straight up the room, sit in front of pc and glu to it until he goes to sleep. And me? Have to help settle the kids to bed, pack their bags for next day, boil cooking water etc. Everyday without fail. And weekend, after he wake up sit in front of pc again. Washing all done by me. Kids me jaga too. Fair hor? He’s human and I’m not human.
I’m patiently waiting for the kids to grow up so I can bring them out for FUN. At the meantime, when they are independent enough to look after themselves, I will have my own FUN!!! I believe the day will come. For you too!
so Oprah said, SAHM is the most difficult job in the world!
*hugz*
and salute to all SAHM!
Hi Chin Nee… well understandable situation! Go out and take some refreshment! Bravo SAHM!
my big hug to u chinnee! your story now makes me think TWICE harder whether I should quit my job after the 2nd bb is out by end of this yr ;(
i’ve been thinking over and over again being a SAHM…hubby of course is agreeing to it. sigh….i can’t decide!! and i’m so worried of the future ‘consequences’ too!
hug hug dear
it’s good that yr mind are clearer after all the trials n errors. yet since it’s already a choice that u had made earlier so why not work it out….dun give up easily, the kids r above everythg at this moment!!
i agree that talk n communication with d oth half is crucial.
human can easily take things for granted without realising so give him a chance to work things out best for yr family.
u can call or look for me anytime too!!
I suppose there are pros and cons of being a WFTM or SAHM - each want to be the other