Not again…. :(
Twice in 3 pregnancies!!
Heavily pregnant with her long waited baby girl at 30 weeks, the baby stopped kicking 2 days ago. It must be a horrible feeling for the mother. Doctor confirmed the baby has passed away 
We got married in the same year. Everyone was waiting for her to get pregnant when they heard about my pregnancy. Unfortunately pregnancy does not come easy for her. When she got pregnant a year later, doctor had to terminate the pregnancy at 5th month, when abnormality of kidney was found. Hence her first baby boy was induced and cremated. She did not look at the baby’s face.
Not long after that, her 2nd baby, a son, came by and he is already 3 this year.
When she got pregnant again this round, doctor was very careful. Due to the history of her first pregnancy, she was put to detail check, has the best doctor in one of our best private hospital in town to confirm that everything about her baby girl is alright. It is only in the 3rd trimester, it was found that the baby as if stop putting on weight. At 30 months, her baby girl only weights 1kg.
A c-sect will be performed this afternoon to bring out the stillborn. I just called her but I choked on my words. I don’t know what to say. I just wonder if I would dare to catch a glimpse on my baby if it is me. Would you, if you it is you…
I rather go thru labour for easier recovery. It’s ever sadder to recuperate from LSCS without a baby.
My baby was born still at 26 weeks. I wished I took more pics of him. Virtual hugs to friend.
I’m so sorry to hear about this… Last time when I didnt have baby yet, I would not have been so emo. I will just say..oh she can have another baby *selfish attitude*. But now, as a mother…and when i read such story, I am truly moved n feel very very sad.
this is something really heartbroke to hear from ur frens :0
Never underestimate a mother love .. the pain can be unbearable… need to to recover for the lost !!
sorry to hear this. this is very sad and heartbreaking.
It’s really heart sank to hear this. So sorry for her to go through this again.
This is so sad… and heartbreaking… I have a friend’s wife who experience something like this before. And I was told that best to take a look at the baby face so that you won’t feel regret in the future. Not sure how true is this, but I think I would like to take a good look at the baby face, so I can remember her details.
Chinnee,
I know u have many followers…so I guess I’ll share my story here.
I was pregnant with not much prob, except one day of bleeding in 1st trimester. I thought it was my menses coz haven’t checked the urine pregnancy test.
No morning sickness, vomiting etc. Only had slight cramps into the 5th month, prob due to urinary tract infection. I was active as ever coz of small belly. Went around for meetings, course, giving talks etc. One day I felt very,very little movement… I went to my gynae 5-6pm and his heartbeat wasn’t there.
I wasn’t:
-diabetic
-hypertensive
-having blood coagulation disorder
Mine was a mystery. Something happened inside and when he struggled, he got cord around his neck sadly.
(will post more soon on my blog… getting too long here, sorry)
http://hanimtaha.blogspot.com/2009/11/on-intrauterine-death.html
Give her my email add if she wants to talk. I also joined http://www.babyfit.com to get online support. It’s beneficial to share experience, although I didn’t know where to seek help/support group back in Dec 2006. Thank God for Internet.
it must be very hard on her esp its a baby girl since she has a boy oredi. thot can close shop, but now have to go thru this again..
God bless her with the strength she needs..
my heart sank while i reading this post, wish her get well soon!
My thoughts and prayers are with your friend. Sad to read your post.
I am so sorry for your friend.
so sorry to hear about this for your friend. as a mom myself, i cannot imagine how is it like if i were in her shoes.
this is truly sad…after carrying her for 30wks, i’m sure the bond was strong. if she’s strong enuf, do take a look at her daughter. being 29wks myself, i can strongly relate to how she would feel, my condolence to yr SIL
This must be really devastating for your SIL. If I were her, yes, I would look at the baby’s face. My deepest condolence to her. Hopefully she will conceive again and carry the baby to full term.
Deepest condolences to the mother, and hopefully she recover soon. She will still have to go through the confinement. It’s surely a sad story to read, and it felt most to a mother like me.
very sorry to hear bout this.
oh, that’s really heartbreaking. Don’t know what else to say.
having gone through 2 failed pregnancies, i can almost understand what the mother is going through. i said “almost” because i lost the first in 5 weeks and the second in 6 weeks. but i cannot imagine losing at 30 weeks. however, i think i will take a look at the baby and remember how beautiful she is and cherish that memory. maybe to even give her a name to remember her by. i still look back at my unborn babies and thank God for the few moments that i had with them. my deepest condolences to your friend. i wish her well….
I can’t imagine how worst i can be… probably gone insane and break into pieces. Sighhh… what heartache inccident.
so sorry to hear this..
i have a friend who gave birth a stillborn, she didn’t take a look on her stillborn but her hubby did, i would like my friend too if this happen on me, i know i won’t let the matter goes if i really take a look on the stillborn.
what a sad news! I think I will be shivering in pain and dare not to look at the stillborn. Hope your friend will be strong and never give up! God bless!
Your SIL must be so devastated. Condolences to her and her family. Hope she’ll be strong to pull through this episode.
Sigh, I nearly cry when I read ur post. Hope ur friend will be strong and look at the positive side.
Such a devastating news. As a mother now, I truly feel for her. My heart cried when I read about your post. Please tell her to be strong. Though I may not know her, my prayers goes to her and her still born baby.
If I’m her, I will see the baby and carry her even though I know old people dissapprove it….I have go through it myself, so I know the feeling of losing baby just like that. Just ask her to be brave as GOD always has HIS own planning for her….For future pregnancy, just scan the baby weekly……
Oh dear…so sorry to hear this. The most important thing is the support from her families. So sad to read this post. I experienced myself for my 1st pregnancy (before Brae) at 20 weeks therefore I truly understand how she feels. I had to be induced at that time and I dared not see the baby myself. And the baby was a girl…
so sad to read your post
and my condolence to the mother. hope that she recovers soon. if i’m the mother, i will take a look at the baby. as i type this, my eyes are flooded de 
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This is every mother’s nightmare - to lose a child. I would look at the baby’s face but I would be depressed forever probably! because how does one carry on after such devastation? I pray to God every night for the things that I have. every night.
it’s very painful indeed … it’s painful enough for friends, and families with such news, I’m sure it’s a thousand times more painful for the expecting parents …
i have a friend who had went through this last June (http://fhnuc.wordpress.com/2009/06/11/a-sad-story/)
Let’s just hope that incident like this won’t happen again …