Ability to *Greet*
06.11.09 / Parenting, Pre-school, QQ / Author: chinneeq
We usually hear, “Uncle, Aunty”, greeted by your friend’s children.
“Dear, quick, say hello to Uncle, Aunty!“. But my girl would usually just keep her mouth close and shy away.
Familiar to the above scene? That’s what happened to QQ and it lasted for as long as four years. No matter how much I ask her to greet my friends or relatives, she will just stare at me blankly, as if cannot understand what I am talking about. Worst till, I was even blamed by my in-laws that I did not teach my girl manners!
Early this year in her Kindergarden’s teachers-parents meet, all her teachers told me that she would just not open mouth, no matter what question was posed to her. I was so upset and tension. Must really make appointment and go relax at my facial treatment, enjoying facial and eye massage with theirbest eye cream again!
It was only until recently QQ starting to open her golden mouth to greet people whenever I ask her to. After 4.5 years of waiting!! Can you believe how relief I was? ….*phiew*….
One of her ex-teacher said some children just need take so much of time to warm up themselves. So, if you have a child who is like QQ, try stay calm, k. And tomorrow will be QQ’s school concert at KLCC theater and I cannot believe how quickly my little baby girl is going to be in the final year in her kindergarden next year!
(Posing in a sarong wearing a pair of wooden shoes, effect from watching too much of Little Nyonya series)
Comments: 21
QiQi has definitely grown into such a pretty girl. At least she greets when you ask her to. My girls dont!!
QQ is just waiting to turn into a beautiful swan. Give her time
Great that QQ showed improvement. And all the best for her concert.
That’s really an achievement, QQ! *clap clap clap*
My kids ah… ada angin one… sometimes will greet, sometimes won’t… lagi susah…
hey…Qi Qi looks like a “big gal” with the sarong, with a little nyonya look as well.
Haha… I can understand how you feel Chin Nee… Mothers are easily get nervous and tensed up! Now, you can feel relieve! She looks so decent with the sarong!
Qi Qi is getting to be a sweet, young lady now!!! So sweet…
at least at 4.5yo she finally greets others. mine, 6yo already so susah wanna open her mouth. she said she shy wor.
wow, she looks like a std 1 or 2 girl…
your patience & determination finally paid off!!! *clap, clap hands*
probably last time qq is too shy to tok… samuel oso like dat he will greet but very soft ppl can hardly hear
Chin Nee,
Every kids are different. As mummy of course we kan cheong. But kids need mummy n daddy’s acceptance regardless of how they are. Slowly she will open up.. now u already seeing it..
I’m also kan cheong. My husband seems so cool. Most of my friends’ kids will just salam us without being told to. My kids, I have to remind them EVERY time. QQ is like Amsyar before. Ermm sometimes Amsyar still doesnt answer questions..! He will shyly look at me, as if expecting me to answer on his behalf. And sometimes he answers without looking at the person’s face. Shy, but I’m just afraid he’ll get used to it..
Mine only greet if she feels like it.
My boy only great with those he like and when he had mood, other wise he just run away … he is not shy .. he just hv his mood on greeting …
QQ looked so grown up in this sarong, like a teenager. My Alycia was a little like QQ last time and I thought she had selective mutism. Now, she’s really chatty, though would still be shy in certain situations.
Mine is the same lah. She won’t greet. She’s very shy. She’ll say can I just say “Hello” or Can I just smile. I guess its because greeting draws all attention to her which makes her self concious so I just let her be even tho relatives think I have bad mannered kids. Haha. I won’t push the kids to do something they are uncomfortable doing.
Wah wah… this lil nyonya so pretty.
hey same case to my gal too. she doesnt like to ‘entertain’ the younger ppl. but if she sees any old folks, she will be happy to greet them and will say whatever i ask her to say to the old folks eg how r u, sik pao mei
to my cousin sis, soli lah, she doesn’t even want to look at them sometimes!
QQ is so pretty with that sarong! so fast gonna finish her kindi oredi.
oh..a relief to me after reading this..same goes with Hanafi, he’s very slow to warm-up…think his lil brother would be better in this & even now he’s showing his charm all over, stranger or not…well, my boys are totally 2 different person & am worry less..coz don want to get headache over this..he,he..
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