Admitting myself into Tanjung Rambutan
When I read about Shireen’s complaining pulling hair and tearing skin feeding her child, I think I am worst, having to manage 2 crazy kids these days. For me, it feels like slicing pieces of my skin out of me slowly, layer by layer and then left to depress and die of super-speed aging.
For almost a month (or more), my boys have not been eating well (or I should say, not eat AT ALL) but only attached to my very very dry and skin-left boobs screaming for no reason all day long. I know that not eating well is only a temporary phase. In fact, I should be counting my blessing that my twins are born at the maturity of pregnancy with good health and good look, and things like this is actually nothing to worry about as compare to newborns or sick babies who are fighting for their life in the incubators. It is just me that I can’t handle my stress well, especially very recently (cannot be menopause symptoms right? I am only 33!)
Anyway I just realised that molars are coming out from their gums yesterday. Korkor has got one molar out now, and Didi has 2 coming out at the same time (luckily they dare not bite me!). No wonders these madness happen, and it is still happening although Korkor got back his appetite so we left only fussy Didi to force feed.
But still, despite eating well and sleeping well today, they still cried and wailed for no reason this evening. We have even come to a horrible stage where I had to leave them rolling on the floor since they just would not stop crying although I tried hard to carry or distract them.
*Sigh*….these few days I have been sitting there, feeling so lost, looking at my screaming boys who one by one takes turn crying out their lungs, wriggling on the floor. With this kind of low tolerance (sometimes I even got wild and scream back at my innocent young kids), I really wonder if I am fit to be a SAHM. I think I better send them out to pre- school in earlier age before I go into deep depression and got admitted into Tanjung Rambutan!
You think this is temporary phase?? Haha…we actually expect even crazier days to arrive as my 16 maonths boys are entering into their Terrible Two (x 2) soon. How I envy mummies with MIL around so at least they get a 1 hour break in a day or a day off in a week to breathe (although sometimes MIL is commonly refers to Monster-In-Law).
*This is what we call the FUN of PARENTING TWINS*…crazy twin mother
whuuaaa…while reading your post, i can’t breath well, when i imagine myself in your shoes! having twins isn’t really that fun ha..coz i always hope that i can get a pair of bb next time
think twice now. my lil gal didn’t fuss at all during any teeth eruption period but she has not been eating well for long long time liao! still got all the energy to run up and down and talk non stop all day long. Pediasure & Sustagen (the new dunno what 100% nutrients bla bla bla) are her main meal now, 3x a day. sigh….chinnee, hang on there. ming thin wui kang hoe 
i don’t have twins but I’m also pulling hair. haha teething is like that wan la. Just let them cry, if you carry them now.. maybe in the future you gotto design one sling that can carry 2 boys at the same time.
heh… dun forget i m a mother of TWO BOYs also.. even one boy already drive me up the wall …. one is on the way soon … Recently Jeremy also eat less and become very picky at food … he is getting thin compared to lastime … and baby J was a BIG drink until my milk also not enuf for him have to top up some formula milk…:(
BUT after all … i have a very good PIL (MIL and FIL) to help up each everning .. so i can have a good dinner and more time with the eldest one… other wise i be going to tanjung rambutan ….
Anyway … mummy with 2 boys like us … hang on ya …. same to u sasha
I think just a phase…maybe use Paik Ling method..Cry It Out. well I do that to Philip too..until people think I abuse my kid. Cos I dont want to spoil him…
take a deep breath .. in . .out.. in.. out…
this is just a passing phase.
Hang on there Chin Nee. I know it’s sooooooo tough being a SAHM. Don’t worry about the twins crying. Sometimes I also switch off when all 3 are crying at the same time and there’s nothing we can do that help. My paed always ask me, “Do you remember how often or how long you cried when you were young?”. Ask yourself that question and you won’t feel so helpless
Besides cutting molars is no fun. How about slobbering teething gel? At least helps soothe for a little while.
I don’t know, may be it’s a phase.. I have yet to reach there… but I have also scream at my girl when can’t tolerate all her wail!! :p
poor you, Chin Nee. you are doing a great job. hang in there. btw, is there a gel you can apply on di di’s gums so that he doesn’t feel so irritated or cranky?
The crying will be replaced by all the whining when they grow up. Aiyo.. double double trouble.
Hang in there… No matter what, you’ll get through it.
Plan for a vacation to distract your depression. It works!
Ohh…I’m nothing compare to you. Now I felt so comforted. hehehe…NOT laughing at you !! I love TWINS but I don’t think I can handle twins well. My boy and girl are already tearing my world apart (plus I have a very helpful & easy-going MIL)….can’t imagine if I have a pair of twins and have to take care of them ALL BY MYSELF!! …..Salute to you & all SAHM & mummies with twins. Keep up your good work! These pharse will soon be over…..
Haha…love your line…Monster-In-Law!!! Don’t worry so much lar..you will get the hang of it. It’s just a phase. I’m also a screaming monster at home…LOL!!!
Oh molar tooth is erupted no wonder they dun have appetite. Hang on your nightmare will pass very soon.
I use the “Cry It Out” too. I let them cry for a bit..at the same time or after that I MYSELF cry in my room too..! Feels better after that.
Chin Nee, I think you’re a WAHM..so there’s an added job there too not only minding family and home. That’s why it feels tough! SAHM, WAHM or FTWM..we are all MOMS, that’s why God created us..I dont think men can handle the pressure hee hee
If you admit yourself to Tg Rambutan, let me know, I’ll join you ok? Baby C is also sucking me dry. She is getting more and more addicted to my boops.
Your twins look well fed, so don’t worry too much. Keep giving food they like.
Yeah, I can imagine how tough it is with 2 cranky boys. Sometimes I just ignore my boy’s cries. After all he’s only cranky and craving for attention! As for the food, try giving new food? Like meatloaf, chic stew, pasta? My boy has v good appetite when I give him different food
No wonder told us motherhood was tough did they? But I am sure none of us would want to trade our roles for another. It’ll all be over soon… and they move on to the next phase.. sigh! At the end of the day, we love them all the same, especially their cuddles and wet kisses.
Glad to see so many moms encouraging each other.. good job all!
wow…i didn’t know it’s that tough…mentally preparing myself now…
it is not easy managing kids…
Just try to relax…
I learn like Paik Ling…learn to let them cry and see how it goes..
If I keep entertain, totally no need to do anything….and end up in Tg Rambutan tooo
i have been thru crazy days b4 so i understand how u feel. but this phase will pass and try to think positively (i know its hard)… enjoy them now.. (from a mother who told me this recently where both her kids are overseas now and she misses them so much)
i can imagine what you going thru by looking my sis “times” twice the effect!!! stay cool, stay calm ya!!!
hang in there! u’re not alone… i have learnt to ignore cries already.
i also have a short temper and i’ve learnt to ignore the kids (and hubby) is the best way to avoid future regrets. not easy holding it in but after ‘calming’ down with big breaths or just taking long showers (my only ‘me’ time at home), it sort of helps.
Not to mention TWIN but one whinning child is enough to drive you up to wall especially you are a SAHM. Hanging there… we all here for you!!!
Hi Chin Nee, I am with you!! But I dun wanna go to Tg R. ler… Hang in there, you have many supporters / followers/ *or whatever-u-call-it*. Most of the days I am like that too - screaming at my boys like a mad woman!
Cheers!
Ugh…teething is a tough time! How about giving them something cold to suck on? I bought Lucas this teething ring (from Anakku) I think which is put into the freezer before use.
Gnawing on it soothes the “inflammation” they’re experiencing from the molars erupting.
I think I’m the ONLY Mother who cannot stand children crying LOL
I guess this happen more frequently with SAHM?? Cause my sister is complaining to me everyday about her kids as well till she almost raise a white flag!! As she need to take a break and away for vacation and asking me to babysit her kids….so, Chinnee, you are not alone…maybe, because you stay at home and facing the kids 24/7/365 days, that’s why you feel more stress…take a break, yes!!