Kakak said she wants to stay
Ok, time to sit down and write again while the boys are attaching to the idiot box being watched by Kakak who is actually reading and admiring the beautiful cars with spoilers in the car magazine.
Our Kakak will be due in May next year, and already I am worried about getting a replacement. I just cannot imagine the mental torture that I’ll be getting, not to mention the high risk of getting someone we cannot live with and the high cost to bring in one now.
Actually hubby and I have been cleaning the house all these while before we have a helper. But now since we have 2 little rascal who frequently cry for attention, it is indeed too tired to manage both of them while doing the housework. I think it will be best to have a helper with us, at least for another one or two years (especially when the boys are growing into their terrible 2x soon next year).
A friend actually thought me this. Ever since she arrived, I have been slowly and frequently talking to her into working seriously in Malaysia for long term. Working here for only 2 years certainly will not give her enough money for the rest of her life and what’s more she has a toddler girl. I make her see the difference between myself and her and told her how education can improve life. Slowly I psycho her into making more money for her girl’s education.
She is smart to know that money spent out fast and many people who come out to work will continuously working since they are so used to life here and get bored easily with life there after going back awhile with all money spent. I also tell her that if she stop working after 2 years contract, all her wish to work again will have to go through the process of the agent and she will lost of her 6 months deposit again. Not worth it right?
She is also aware that working here continuously at least 8 years (so that they can go in and out of the country easily without having to apply through agent later on loosing away their 6 months salary to the agent in future).
Although she has agreed verbally to me yesterday, I certainly hope she would just extend another year without having to go back for a short holiday. (Really I do not want her to be brainwashed by people at her place by comparing their employers especially those working for the rich Arabians, getting tips to perform silly tricks their employers). Perhaps I should compensate with bonus or something which I might think of later…
A friend of mine is hiring Cambodian maid and find it very good. She can speak English and picking up some local language too. Since their community here not as strong as Indon, lower risk of running away. Furthermore, Indo government demanding so much nowadays. FYI, most of them are buddist.
can empathise completely with on this issue…
its true tat you should try to encourage her not to go back..they are so easily influenced and brainwashed by others…
my maid was initially quite good when she first came to work for me and my family…she has leave every month..and when she goes on leave, she mixes with her peers who tells her stories and all..as time goes by, i can see her work performance deteriorate..sigh
Hopefully you maid can stay and work for your another 2-3 years.
we did the same thing for our maid last time. but she kept changing her mind every few weeks. in fact, each of us took turns to brain wash her. in the end, she also chow. we thought she may come back after a few mths.. but she didn’t
now, we have a part-time maid who comes once a wk
it would b best to keep your maid instead of getting a new one unless the current maid is reli useless … malaysia can just xtend another yr without going back? here max onli 6mths then must go back home country
I guess it’s better for kakak to stay until when the kids are older. It’s really good to have a maid to help around and u could have more time with the kids and not to worry about housework.
I ‘psychoed’ my maid into knowing the value of money and time when she was with us for 4 years and after she went back she called me and told me she built a proper house with tiles, dat was her dream.
No, certainly no bonus since she is not perform. You may replace with something probably not luxury but it’s her favourite. If my maid was like yours, I’ve already deducted her salary…
Ya, I am a bad employer.
if maid goes back for one month holiday, half of the cost of sending her home is the employer’s. but we do not hv to pay them that one month salary lar. mine just went back and it cost me (the employer) one mth salary and her one mth salary. so i’m actually paying her that one mth salary that she is not working for us.
My maid’s contract ending next Mac. I’m oso hoping she’d continue for another yr or 2. Really a lot of hassle training a new one n getting used to a new person.
Good for you to have someone that you can trust. And good tactic to make her stay too.
My maid’s contract ending next Mac. I’m oso hoping she’d continue for another yr or 2. Really a big hassle to train a new one n get used to a new person all over again.
You are so lucky to have found a good maid.
Even mine wants to stay longer, I told her “Ok, if you’re good”. In my mind, I’ve already decided, “No thanks!”.
You are so lucky to have found a good maid.
Mine wants to stay longer and I told her “Ok, if you’re good”. In my mind I have already decided “No thanks!”.
at least she can understand the scenario..but then again..if they meet a guy..all that can change..
you are lucky! Two of my previous maids couldn’t extend their stay with us. The family didn’t let them work for another year, sigh!
Now it’s so expensive to bring in a new one, abt RM8.3k I heard.
Good that you now have a reliable maid, despite her minor shortcomings. Hope she’ll stay on as you wish.
My current maid wants to continue working for us when her contract expires next March. It’s us who have doubts on whether to renew her contract and do away with live-in maids. The cost of getting a new maid is almost a freaking RM10k bomb! Even if we renew her contract, it would be for 1 year until Baby C is 3 years old and easier to manage.
My maid also will due next march, she quite dilligent and loves kids, wish to have her to work again with me after she back indon. But, what i really can’t stand now is she likes to intefere between me & my kids, loves not to answer when I talked/asked her to do thing (asked her to answer thousand of times, but she still like that). Another thing, recently she even whishpering grumble about me while I walked away from her when I mad for not answering me.
Taking a new maid really scared me, it cost a lot money & mental.
Sigh… should I let my current maid act not respecting me and ask her to work with me again?
Thinking of work on my own, but worry I couldn’t cope it.