Cupcakes ain’t cake?
I am so pissed off with him last night that I had to scream at him while having our dinner (if I still have those cupcakes with buttercream, I’ll throw them onto his face!)
Since the day I started to bake a few years back, I have been telling myself that I would one day want to bake for my own children’s birthday, be it a cake or cupcakes. Seeing that cupcakes is in trend now (actually more easy for me to decorate), I decided to go for cupcakes, at least until my piping skill improve.
But from the moment he knew I am gonna bake for them, he keep on asking me, many many times until yesterday, if my cake is going to be presentable, and he told me he prefer getting a “proper cake” from the shop for her girl’s birthday celebration in school (so that her girl could be proud CUTTING the cake instead of just having cupcakes)
After all the attempts and trials, all the hardwork and sweat (while I leave the boys crying behind) I am really dissappointed 
It is now either I am going to bake ONLY CUPCAKES for all 3 functions (QQ’s school birthday celeb, boys birthday with family in Kuantan, and Melaka which I plan to buy from my favourite shop) to release my anger, OR he can have to use up all his great saving from the cash drawer, go and order 3 cakes for 3 occasions, apply leave from work so he could personally collect and send his version of “presentable cake” to his girl’s school!
Cool down, cool down! Hubbies are like that onelah…
I think your cupcakes are lovely and from QQ’s reaction, she seems to love them too
Tell the Papa that his precious little girl LOVES them more than a boring bakery cake lor…
Maybe Hubby is worried you’re doing too much since it’s easier to buy THREE cakes from the shop? You’ve got 3 kids and a biz to run wor…
Don’t take his words to heart. Men are very frank one and in general, what they say do not come out the right way! That’s why they are MEN see
Has his Mum ever made anything for him? You only need to remind him of his favourite ‘Mummy’ dish and he’ll understand completely hahaha
hehe, i see men r all the same. so insensitive!
go ahead still with your cupcakes. if he wants the shops’ cakes, he can go buy them himself and bring them to the scholl separately. i mean, the way u have posted, qq loves ur cupcakes so that matters the most.
dont angry…
Maybe bake a ‘bigger’ cupcake + cupcake? LOL
Coooolll down chin nee….
you cake looks ok..better than be many many times…
Proof him wrong…
not matter what to QiQi..Mummy’s cake is always the best n no1…
aiya…i mean ‘better than me many many times’
i’m all on your side. i’m sure QQ would be proud to have mommy’s homemade cake for bday at school!
No doubt a cake from bakery shop is more presentable, but cupcake will be easier to manage especially distributing to kids.
dun be angry. men.. is always like that. I bake mine so nice also he never touch at all. Let him say whatever he wants la. Like u said ask him to do everything la .
Hey, you are not the only one here. Daddykhong always said that to me. Why so mah fan go and bake and decorate yourself…just buy lar. It is just the mother instinct that you want the best for your kids and you want to do it yourself.
Just ignore him lar. Do what you think it’s the best for your kids as long as you feel good about it. I truly support you
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Sometime they can really “sou heng” wan hor … just spoil our mood and inspiration to bake cake for our kids .. i truly understand u …. my hub will said … u bake la, but dont put any cream or sugar paste, no one wanna eat wan …. there gone my inspiration for deco the cake
if no deco … how to show and be presentable ?? ( this is my case-la)
if ur hb insist wanna to buy cake, let him buy la ….. u can still bake ur cake … kids will never had enuf for cake …
But must cool down first …. i know u been prepared this big days for so long already ….
Aiyo, tell him, now the cupcakes r the trend ler. And make QQ ’s birthday so special. I wanted to get a friend to make cupcakes for Lynn’s birthday at school but too bad the friend is not free. So i get her a Jelly cake.
I’m sure if ask QQ to choose, she will choose ur cupcakes. Go ahead…. like other mommies said, if he wanna buy cake, let him buy. U go ahead with ur cupcakes. Don’t let him spoil ur mood.
i think ur hubby dont want to see you so “sun-fu”.. i mean to be so tired, n at the same time to take care of the kids…
i guess if he want to buy additional cakes, let him buy, n u bake yours. the kids / family will be happy to eat all the cakes available to them. I will eat ur cupcakes…*i promise*..
Please pass all your cupcakes to me - my tummy is waiting!!! Seriously, maybe he doesn’t know that cupcakes are the in thing at the moment. And QQ looked so happy with them too!
I hope you’ve cooled down by now Chin Nee
I don’t bake..but I think that cupcakes are cakes in a cup..so cake jugak lah
IMO, I prefer cupcakes..easier lah for the kids and everyone else to eat! Kalau takde piring / fork / spoon pun takpe! Ngap je.
I also like cupcakes with the basic deco better. The ones with the swirly buttercream on top..like yours. With some sprinkles of choc rice, or stars, or those silver coated lil choc balls (what ah? dragee or something..?). Or get those nice small lollipops / marshmallows and stick it on the buttercream. You can go to Martha Stewart’s website and take a looksie..but I’m sure you have a few designs up your sleeve, right
If the cake (base) is delicious (I suspect yours IS..coz QiQI loves em!), then it’s more than okay already…!
I must have wrongly clicked somewhere because my comment is not here..! Another comment did appear at your earlier entry, though.
Chin Nee, I hope u’ve cooled down
Aduh men..nevermind..as long as the cake (base) of the cupcake is delicious, ok oredi! I personally like the swirly buttercream sprinkled with dragee (spelling?), choc rice, stars etc better than the fancy2 complicated design ones. Cupcakes are easier lah, Chin Nee. No need plate, fork or spoon. Ngap je
i think ur cupcakes are presentable and QQ can even be PROUD saying that she helps u to bake and decorate to her teachers and school frens. wldnt that be wonderful!
men are super lazy and want mah fan free.. later he sure comes over to u and hug hug and kiss kiss liao… forgive him.. but maybe throw the cream at his face first so he knows its really tasty leh..
kidding only…
cheer up ok.. ur cupcakes are beautiful.. and QQ loves it!
Wah..a lot of sensible moms out there. If it’s me, I will not be that sensible lor..hahaha. You know what I did to get my man call-it feel/know/sense what I do? I make him bake cupcakes for the girls. Then baru he tau the labour that went into it and the joy of having his kids loving the cupcakes he made (albeit the ingredients come from a box).
he probably doesn’t know cupcake is the in thing. maybe u only do for school but not for the other 2 parties, then square off lorr…u oso win he oso win
some men are kinda old-fashion in their thinking cos they grew up with cakes and only cakes for their birthdays. those days, where got cupcakes? so..it’s kinda hard for them to accept cuppies for birthdays. mine is like that too when i suggested to order cuppies for ashley’s bday. give him some time and when he sees how happy qiqi loves your cuppies, he’ll think otherwise
man si yao seong leong…cool down ar…just throw the cupcake on him first, if that can cool u down the fastest. hehe. kidding kidding.
ur cupcakes are beautiful!! i can’t even know what flour to use for baking! don’t care lah..u want the best best of the best for ur kids. so does ur hubby. guys won’t appreciate so much. u both love ur kids very much and that’s why hubby also wanna give his best advise(konon the best la i guess) . let QQ bring the cupcakes to school, i guess she would love it more than an ordinary cake. she was the deputy chef also wor!
cheer up ya!
Just to reassured you, your cupcakes certainly looks presentable!
Last time, when I was trying to make some “fa gou”, I’ve failed many times. Everyone including my hubby told me to give up and just bought the outside one. Frustration and disappointment (why everyone couldn’t be more confident on me?) makes me even more determined to make it. Now, my hubby is the one who requested me to make “fa gou” sometimes.
so, go ahead with your plan, make cupcakes for your girl, I’m sure your hubby will realised how nice it is!
I tell you, all men sounded just the same
Either they are insensitive or dunno how to talk (don’t want you to work too much but never say it in a sweet way :P)!
p/s: Just to assure you that your cupcakes look absolutely presentable, no worries
Men all same wan la
My hubs never once touched my cooking and baking… only sometimes as if to see if my cooking can actually be eaten. Damn teruk rite, but anyhow I do bake once in a while, not for him, but for my kids. They love it, I guess that’s all it matters? LOL…
Great work on the slings!! Men ..well, my man bakes all my cakes, muffins. I couldn’t really comment how he is. Love all his blueberry muffins, he is trying to do rum cake - till I got pregnant. HAHA. Anyhow, cool down. He has his best intentions for you. To me your cupcakes looks better than MINE!!!! 100 times better!!! no kidding. go tell him that. I had to ask my hub to teach me to bake. Go figure… hahaha
I think men have this thing against cupcakes. Mine’s the same. Told me not to waste my time and just bake a cake. For Amber’s bday, my initial plan was cupcakes but we ended up with one square block of boring cake. Waiiitt…. I ain’t giving up. Let me polish up my skills first..
I think it’s a great idea to bake the cakes/cupcakes for your children’s birthday. Sure it may be hard work but it is a labour of love right? I’ve always made my girls’ bday cakes, sure I get tired and whinge but I really enjoy it. Plus the bonus is seeing their reaction to see that you’ve made the cakes for them. Check out the latest cake I made for my eldest girl in March. http://wangirls.blogspot.com/2009/03/ashleigh-turns-10.html
You’re doing well to manage a household, look after 3 young children and run a business simulaneously.
stay cool chin nee!! i hope everything is ok, and whether it is cup cakes or a big cake, at the end of the day, it is for QQ, and the boys! so, make it a happy one!!
Chin Nee,
Answers to your questions:
1. I am not sure where to get cake dummies in your area. I live in Sydney and I found mine in the cake ingredients shop (if you’re in PJ, maybe try Chang Tung or Chun Yip). There maybe other cake shops but I’ve not been back to KL for 8 years. I think there is a cake shop called Cake Connection, you could give them a call.
2. To secure the thing, I just used dress-making pins (the silver ones and the pearl pins). If you want, I can take close up shot of how to secure the pins.
3. The cake stand was pretty stable, it did not topple over when the cupcakes were removed. The good thing about using the cake board is you could remove each layer and place it on the table (to avoid toppling over). The cake boards I used was also much thicker and sturdy. I have seen the same cake stand used at a wedding with 5 tiers which did not topple either.
Let me know if you want more details. Good luck. I am sure your daughter will love any cake that you make. Maybe she could help you too, since she is 5 right? I had my 10 and 3.5 year old girls help me with the cupcakine making and decorating. With the younger girl, she helped put the flower on top of the cupcake after it had been iced. She was so happy with that simple task.
Exactly the same comment I get when I was doing the finishing of fondant on the cupcakes. He goes, “where is Ah girl’s b’day cake?” And I goes, “Duhh, what am I doing now? This is not a cake meh?”
And when my girl came home he goes, “Mi, where is my burfday cake?”
And when daddy overheard this, he goes, “Yala. Go buy her a proper cake la.”
Dem fuming!