3 monsters driving me up the wall
I almost exploded when my 3 monsters drove me up to the wall yesterday. First it was my 2 naughty boys. Just like their father, they almost refuse to nap. At only 6 months plus, they could stay up AWAKE for 7 hours, just imagine!
From 3pm (after waking up from their nap), especially Di-Di allow me, ONLY ME to carry him, to play with him, to feed him. I could not go to the toilet, could not nap, could not do any other thing except entertain him. Not that he could sit or lie there to play with me, but he wants me to carry him most of the time. As my maid and I were trying very hard to put the boys to nap (oh, we usually have to carry and pat them on shoulders to sleep), they just could not doze off (eyes open wide and cry out loud awake the moment we put them into their sarong :(Â ) Weird monster babies, don’t you think so?
Then come another big monster, who else if it is no other than their sister. Don’t know what got into her, she kept on waking up in the middle of her evening nap to cry, cough…until almost vomit (she did it many many times on my sofa), then fall asleep, wake up and cry again for Mummy!!! Arrghh…I was so mad I told her she still has her mummy, her mummy *belum mati* (although I wish the floor will open and swallow me in that very moment) that she should not wail like that.
I really cannot understand why my 3 children always have difficulty in their sleep or nap. (Even my ex-nanny or CL can be my verdict). From birth until now almost 5 years old, QQ always wakes up crying and even louder if I am out of sight. I notice the same with the boys now (especially I am in toilet)…See how tired I am. I do not even need to run on a treadmill to burn my calories.
When I read about how Chanel’s put baby Ariel to sleep, that her baby can be “left alone in her cot, on the music and off the light, and within a short while she would just doze off”……aiyoo…sounds so beautiful….I mean, it is like fairy tale parenting, that will only happens in books to me….SIGH…..
I think I can shake hands with u, I have 2 kids who can’t sleep well at babies too. But now, it gets better, still wakes up at night on dunno what reason la, but they take nap at school liao, so more senang for us now.
*hugs* be strong ok dear mom… that’s part of parenting I guess…that’s what I hate most from having a little baby hehehe…
sigh, i shall join ur in the new “our babies donwan sleep” club! mine too lah! omg! everyday oni sleep off like btween 12am - 2am. everyday i go work like zombified!
sigh, then wake up, cry & cry
how lah!!!!
Haiz…. sleep training is very difficult to do. But if u want to do it… I will hold your hand. It really works. It’ll be easier to train ur babies, than Qiqi. Qiqi….u’ll have to wait when she’s older…when she’s more matured.
You are not alone. Mine is nearly 2 and still needs night feed and cries the moment he dont see me when he wakes up!
i also have prob wif my girl, every nite she din sleep well n most of the time i have to wake up at least 5x a nite … i dun noe y she just cant sleep through the nite…. think on the bright side chinnee, they r so cute n it is worth suffering at this moment, its just a matter of time
I can totally relate to ur “wishing the floor wud open up n swallow me” moments. hehehe My boy will oso wake up a few times during nap time or at night but luckily it’s not too difficult to make him fall asleep again. But it has to be me loh. He doesn’t want PaPa.
Hmm…. i’m a bad mommy…. i wont just carry or spend time with the baby for so long and not able to do any other things else. I will be mad and bad mood as nothing being accomplished for the day. And my gal will scream and cry madly as she wants her mommy too. Me will die lor like this.
poor mommy. i also dunno how you managed all the kids lah. you are doing great. hopefully the babies will be better at sleeping when they grow older.
Wei…cannot do comparison lar….your ‘monster’ actually is your sweet angels lor….in some way :P…..The kids also has 6 senses, the moment, you want to have ‘ME’ time or wanted to do some CNY cookies, so, you hoping they sleep fast, they purposely don’t sleep….so, before you put them to sleep….you, yourself must have cool and relax mind, like ‘I only want them to sleep - that is my job’….dont’ think other things lor……it works!! Try it….also, for QiQi, when you know she almost wake up, try to sit beside her or do your stuff next to her while she asleep…so, when she woke up, blur blur…seeing you next to her, she won’t yell or cry anymore
…It is just a normal parenthood….don’t be so moody, k? I’m learning it myself as well…not easy tho…ha,ha
*hugs*
Jo,I think it is me who gets very kan cheong (can’t keep my excitement) until my kids sense it. Will try your method….*desperately hope your method will work for me*.
Mamajo idea sounds good to me. Hope this method works for my elder girl as well.
Mamajo method works…trust me..once we are calm it is easier to calm baby. I don’t carry Jeriel and Ariel often…Train them to sleep on the mattress and even stroller…
I am quite a cruel mother who will let them cry for some duration, they will stop unless it is too long then must be something wrong then will carry…
Ariel used to be ‘pat pat’ on ‘bum bum’ with music to sleep. We used music to calm her down…
Both Jeriel(when baby) and Ariel, when they wake up they will play on the cot for a while then will start calling us. If I am doing something, I will respense and ask him/her to wait for a while and I will come to pick him/her out from cot. When I go to the cot, I will ensure by saying, see Mummy really come and carry you, you such a good boy/girl playing by yourself…and give them a smile.
Chin Nee, cannot compare one lah. Your twins sound exactly like Bryan. Do you know that from the day he was born, he only slept like 8-10hours a day in total? Even now, he can get by with a 30min nap once a day. I carried him so much until I developed De Quervian syndrome which took a year to heal. Up till recently, he wakes up 5-6 times a night, crying. My MIL went to the temple with his “si sun pat see” and got him a “fu” to put at the bed. Eventhough I kinda don’t believe in it, he has stopped crying since. Don’t know whether it is coincidence or not.
Besides, two very important points, which make you different from Chanel, are that you have:
(1) Twins
(2) Boys
Most mummies who have had a girl first would attest that they face a harder time when the 2nd/3rd one is a boy, compared to those who had a boy as their first-born.
I echo Mott’s suggestion that perhaps you may want to sleep train the boys. I have a few references which I can share with you - which I tried with Bryan and Brandon. With Bryan I wasn’t successful cos I started very late and I am not a SAHM so there was no consistency. With Brandon, i hit the jackpot cos I trained him from Day 1. I’ll email to you ok? It’s an e-book. Anything you don’t understand, can ask me.
You are doing an absolutely great job, Chin Nee!!! You’re a wonderful mother. If I were in your shoes, I think I would have admitted myself into Hospital Bahagia.
Yeah I agreed wif Paik Ling, u are doing a great job Chin Nee dun stress urself. I remember Brian also the same when he’s around twins aged but things get better when he’s around toddler aged. Be patience, dear! and remember u must take care of urself too
I’ve had the “floor opening and swallow me” moments too, and I only have one child! What more you have three! Hang in there, you are doing really well already.
I think it is inherited too, some people can doze off easily (like my dear hubby, hehehe) while some take longer time (like me unless very sleepy already).
my boy gives up nap already nowadays… and he still can tahan until 11 or 12midnight!