Lucky her
If YOU (I think you know you are) think that I am mistreating my maid, Halo, I can tell you she is real lucky to work in our house. She only do simple cleaning 3 hours a day daily like ensuring the floor is clean, laundry done (using washing machine) before the babies wake up in the morning. Only when the babies are taking their nap, only she
- helps me prepare the food (we even take turns to cook as both of us love cooking),
- fold the clothes
- plays with QQ
Unlike living in other home, she DOES NOT even have to:
- Clean the windows (we hardly open it anyway)
- Wash the cars (hubby washes himself)
- Climb up to wipe the fans and so (hubby afraid she breaks things at home)
After taking her bath and from as early as 8am, she get to SIT DOWN in front of the TV with me and my children until night when they goes to bed. Well, 2 reasons why I do not allow her to do other housework, especially cleaning is because:
- For hygienic reason, I want her to stay clean whole day since she is helping me with the babies
- So that I could go online while she plays with them, or sit beside my babies, patting them back to sleep when they move
In fact, after the few incidents, we still sit down and chat like friends (mind you, I do not restrict or place her in the kitchen or her room). We sit down in the living hall, we chat about family, we laugh and joke all the time. All I am asking is that she do not do things behind my back, THAT’S ALL. There is never once I say NO to her, just if she ask permission.
And if YOU think that sleeping on your employer’s couch is OK, (If you are under employment) I think you ought to do that to your employer too? Do you sleep in your Director’s couch? Do you ask to sit in a room or the same nice chair like your superior does at work? (And if you are a self employed), HALO, do you let your employee sleep during working hours, sprawl himself or herself right in front in your office or shop as they ilke?
Well, I do let her rest or take a nap in her room, only ON her bed when she is not feeling well at times. I even offer her to nap when she did not get enough sleep (once when she waked up to help me in the middle of the night). She does not even have to help taking care of the babies at night!
Even as a friend or sibling, you still ask permission when you wanna take their things right? As a Buddhist, I know exactly what I am doing, and of course, as I do not wish to be reborn as a maid too, in my next life. I believe she has got a very fair and kind treatment for me, and I asking to be respected here too, as an employer.
Ah yes, not forgetting we let her eat in peace when we dine outside too, while my and hubby carrying the carrying babies, trying to soothe them walking here and there like mad people!
yup…lucky her!
my maid wakes up at 6.30am everyday to sweep and mop the floor. then start preparing to cook lunch all by herself coz hubby leaves work by 9am. then she starts washing; some handwash and some washing machine. wipe the windows once every week, wipe the furniture, fan and walls (wooden walls). she also needs to wash our verandah and car porch, feed the chicken, sweep the leaves in the compound everyday, cut grass when needed, feed chicken, fold and iron clothes and at the same time attend to my children when I am online or napping. When I am minding my own children, MIL will bring her to the starfruit trees to wrap the starfruits and get some coconut leaves to make broom.
never once i see her sits on our cushion even though i told her that she can. i think they are taught not to by the agent. she only watch TV after dinner with my MIL that’s around 8.30pm to 9.30pm…latest by 10pm, she goes to bed.
i thank God that my maid is not adventurous in trying new food.
she is very senang and i think she takes it for granted oredi. u have been too nice to her. sometimes we have to let them know who is the boss and what she can and NOT do.
that “YOU” ought to be given 2-tight slaps!
Yes ur maid is indeed very luncy! Unfortunately they do not know how to appreciate.
actually her work very senang lorr…at least no need take care pets and wash the giant aquarium like mine LOL
Yeah lucky her to do some simple chores only!
ya man! damn “ho meang” one ur maid…u know wat? they will never ever be appreciative of anything…serious! no matter how well u treat them…they will always behave the way they are…that’s why their country is the way it is…damn a lot of these ppl there!
No comment.
As long she can assist u in the way u want..i’m fine. cannot over demand. too much headache.
hmmm… no comment also here. no maid
my maid more lucky, just help me to take care my 1.5mths baby without doing any housework (another maid fully in charge of housework), i also give her to carry one h/p in case anything urgent (saw her always sms to her indonesia husband). Somemore she ask me to increase RM100 to her salary on yesterday, you see nowadays they are so lucky and pandai to demand…
haha… in fact I think your problem is you’re too nice. Should be fiercer from the beginning then she would not have been so fearless to sleep on the couch and eat anything she likes. It’s hard to chit chat and joke like friends then tell her she can/can’t do certain things lah. You’re sending mixed signals.
i tot mine one lucky edi but yours even luckier
Yup. She is indeed lucky to be with you. Little housework to do.
wah, lucky maid! my maid also very lucky coz she dun have much to do in the house…and she don’t eat leftovers!!! *piak, piak*
I hav 2 maids tht have been with us for past 4 years, one is to look after my mother and help the other maid who does most of the house chores.
All I will say is tht as an employer, I would like to think I have treated them fairly, and as a person, I treat them the same as any parents will treat their children but we know where to draw the line. There are human beings too and pls don treat them as objects, they all have mother and father like you n me.
how much work u delegate to yr maid is YOUR decision, is not because the maid is in luck! each household has their own set of ways in doing things and rules. Afterall, M$500/mth including lodgings and foods do not go a long way despite what you may believe.
Ria and Katini are allowed to take nap or rest if there is nothing to do, they know this but I can count with 1 hand how many times they hav done tht in the last 4 yrs. They prefer to sit on the floor because they said it’s their custom, I said OK, fine. I have been very frank to them that they are not just any employees but personal helpers who will get to know many personal details and secrets in the family and any wrong doings shall not be tolerated fr the very beginning. Both call home once a month and write as many letters they can make out to friends n family. With phone calls so cheap nowadays, wat’s the point of not allowing contacts with their family. Though my wife may appear generous, both Ria/Katini know where they stand.
I have a 2 yrs old daughter too and we take pride in looking after her ourselves both inside n outside the house. At times, she does what most 2 yrs old toddler will do like crying in the public. Times like these, I’d prefer to deal with the situation ourselves than to let the maids handle it. Of course bringing up a child is never easy, ask any parents but boy, we love every minute of it and adamant that Ria/Katini are not gonna have all the fun to themselves.
underneath the different colour skin colours, we all share the same blood colour. I guess both Ria/katini know this judging by the letter I received fr Ria when I left for out-station for 2 months last year and a voluntary confession from Katini in private.
You know, I guess all the maid that have good employers never appreciate it, and for those maid who has bad employers, really pity on them….
Your maid really lucky liao, doesn’t need to do work 24 hours compare to my next door maid: wake up at 5am, and no nap, work, work, work till 10 or 11pm: sleep only when the crazy woman sleep!!!
And, my sis’s maid, wake up at 7.30am, and simply do the housework, afternoon EVERY DAY, take nap for 2 hours!!! and at night, sleep after she finished wash the dishes, around 9 ~ 10 pm even thought my sis boy boy is not sleep yet!!!
Luckily, I don’t hire maid, otherwise, I will got Tanjung Rambutan first before she do….ha,ha….relax lar Chinnee, you still need her….:P
Wah your maid so free one ah and yet she do that. I think she take it for granted.
Whoooaaaa…. can i be your maid ahh??? hahahah!!! So senang la…
Your maid is too blessed to work in your family..
I think you don’t really need a maid now since she is helping out so little. What you need is a part time helper. Furthermore, you are treating her so nice & she is not appreciating, I am afraid one day you will go bonker and hit her…like that Nirmala’s case, see now what happened to that Ms Yim, she is going to jail for 18years !!!
siapa makan cili, dia rasa pedas!
Is her room too hot? does she have a mattress?
I don’t like my maid sleep on my sofa or my kid pillow. But I will never think of slap her face lah! Can just tell her politely to sleep on her own bed lor. Small matter onli. Geram so much will get onli older faster
She does has a mattress and a room upstairs with us.
Actually we only need a person to help out since I cannot manage 2 babies at the same time. That is our priority. Other chores can wait.
wonder if yr maid came fr a kampung? there always an assumption tht all the maids/helpers know what is and isnt allowed or accepted when they step into our homes. we must appreciate that they lead a very complete different lifestyle to us. We spent a great deal of efforts and time in educating our maids, explain to them what is socially acceptable and simple day to day manners. Some may seem very obvious but you can never tell.
Mumsgather’s maid is sooo more lucky!!