Habit of stealing
I really don’t know what to do with this stupid woman anymore. So many times I have told her, that if she wants to eat something that I have not given to her, she MUST ask my permission. This morning I found out that she quietly ate my cake, which was put on my table before I woke up. And yet, she lied to me that my hubby ate it this morning.
In the past I have told her, MANY MANY TIMES, that she can ask from me, if she wants anything. In fact, for the past 6 months, I have NEVER ONCE say No to her. Even if she did not ask, I will still allocate things that we buy to eat at home (at her station), if it is something not too expensive. In the past incident, she promised me that she will not lie again, and yet, she did it again this morning!
So, what do you think I’ll do to her? Make her skip her lunch? Hmm…I do not want her to fall sick otherwise no one will help me to take care of my babies if she is sick from empty stomach. Perhaps I can just ask her to eat plain porridge (our lunch today) without any side dish? Grrrrr……I think get a term life insurance quote since I might age faster with all these nonsense.
very kek sum.. dunno what to do with her anymore. u think she purposely wanna make u mad and send her home?
I think she knows that she is indispensable that’s why she is so daring. Any chance someone can take care of the baby for 1-2 months while you get a replacement?
Hello dear,
If your maid steals, make a police report. And get rid of her pronto. This is far better than you getting more frustrated and slowly losing control until one day your case ends up like the Normila vs Yim Pek Ha.
can un how u feel.. my maid oso make me burst… dun un how r they thinking
I don’t think she’s the right woman to take care of your kids…they will grow and they are learning many of comportamental facts of that maid…soo, think twice before u forgive her again…
My mum’s maid never sneak food! So i dont know what to do with this one!
hmmm… report to agent? haih…
susah betul la all these maids!
my mil used one method for her son (now my hubby la) to stop him from eating too many sweet things.
she just gave him all the chocolates in the house..and asked him to finish it.
at first..he so happy.
after ten minutes..he wanted to puke. but mil still insist.
now… he hates chocolates and everything sweet.
WAKAKAKAKAKAK..i know la..not relevant..but this reminded me of this story…
LOL, laughing at Mott’s comment haha….
i don’t think punish her skip 1 meal will make her sick lah..after all she ate the piece of cake :P…I think it’ll be good u send her back to agent and let agent deal with her. Cheat bout eating is small thing, but if she cheat bout ur kids eaten(where they never did ate), then it becomes more serious..
mine has improve alot since her 1 meal skip punishment. she has move faster, work faster and not to forget so easily..so i guess it did do a lil magic..
what about like taking away her clothes?? or deduct her money..maybe then she feels the pain. I used to tell my maid if she repeat again, i’ll deduct money then she won’t..those are not stealing, but other lazy stuff
I’m bhuddist. I hope I never reincarnate into Indon or Cambo maid working in M’sa
I don’t have those food stealing problems with my 2 previous maids. But one thing for sure my maids like cakes very much as they hardly or never take such a delicious cake.
Since my family members don’t quite like cake, normally almost half of our special order birthday cakes will be finished by them. It turned out to be their birthday, kekeke…. I think your maid juz could not resist when she saw your cake!
I suggest you to buy a few packs of different biscuits and give to her as snacks or something to eat when she feels hungry. I think you might know that in kampung, they normally eat rice for the breakfast and they eat a lot! My previous maid loves to eat snacks at tea time or whenever she got a little time, they never drank tea at morning, instead they had 3in1 cereal which my FIL bought for them, MILO, Nescafe or coffeemix, sometimes Yakult! but my maid never ate food without our permission except one time she misunderstood and ate all the “kuih talam” which I told her to keep some for my boy.
if she still keeps liying to you, call the agent, some of the agents will pay a visit to the house and talk / give lessons to the maids! if she still can’t change, it might be her character!
Totally agree wit mott!!
My kids, no matter how much I scold, use to always to raid fridge or pantry to eat the things I forbid. Fed up of always nagging I just let them be. After 2 weeks, they got jelak of gobbling so much, they never want to touch it again!
Also agree with martini abt kampung ppl. My bro’s MIL came from mainland rural China recently. Can you imagine she eats 6 bowls of rice everyday!! Not that she’s fat, or hungry. Just that they from poor childhood have been taught to eat as much as poss whenever there’s food, as from poor experience they never knew where the next meal was coming from.
Anyway how much cake can a person eat? Buy her the pasar malam sponge or banana cake only RM5 each! Quite delicious too, my kids oso love it.
This type of prob really easy to solve wan. Don’t sweat the small stuff lah!
really headache with a maid at home. I truly understand as I also geram like you most of the time. many of my house accessories have spoilt by her, but she told me its like that before she comes here to work…they really tot we’re stupid. cut her salary if she still act like that.
hmmm..maybe your husband did eat the cake leh but did not tell you..or maybe she never had the chance to eat any cake before her whole life..perhaps you can buy her 10 two pound cakes to eat..she happy, you happy..
Gee….really funny reading all the comments above. Nevertheless, thanks a lot. Really over the past few incidents, i have learned not to sweat over little stuffs like that. It is easier to give her little punishment than having to scold her all the time (I better not otherwise she will make me old more quickly!)
ya, punish her, skip her one meal or two, then she definitely will remember the punishment.
indo maid really headache oo…sigh, my Chinese maid same too.
Hi, normally, i bought 2 loaf of white bread and 1 big pack of biscuits for my maid every week. It costs around RM11 (in east M’sia) only. These can be her breakfast and also tea time food. Sometimes they really need to eat lots of food to regain their energy. Doing housechores and taking care of babies is aint easy.
As I am thinking of getting a maid soon, these maid stories are very enlightening to me
Thank you for sharing!
Whenever you scold your maid..i really FEEL for you because I DO know how it feels! Because whenever I nag/scold mine, I feel like that to huaa haa ha..but if I dont point out her mistakes (sometimes I tutup sebelah mata also), she keeps repeating it coz donno it’s wrong..but I lah will be tired because have to do/correct her work!
Most of the time now I just dont sweat it & try my best to just brush it off after mentioning/pointing out maid’s mistakes. Malas nak cakap banyak2. Tapi geram jugak lah. I just keep saying to myself that her character is like this and no matter how much i teach/train/remind her, she just wont 100% get it..so i just have to live with that hu huu…
all this acts or retaliation and punishment is really negative and no benefit to you. When you behave in this way, you are really nurturing in her a sense of anger, unfairness and resentment. It is human nature (yes, even maids) to hold back cooperation if not retaliate. She hasn’t got anything to lose, except this job whicih she probably hates as much as you hate her. You on the other hand, will have never-ending stress, disruption to harmony at home, and your daughter learning what hate means.
sorry to hear about your maid. My previous maid likes to snack a lot too
(esp when I told her that she can help herself to the things in the fridge..bummer)
Usually when she behaves in a way we didn’t like, we asked her why she did it.
Maybe she is hungry in the morning. I used to store up enough food for her (so no more lame
excuse for her to eat mine). 1 loaf of bread, peanut butter, milo, tea, 1 tin of
biscuits (variety ones) and sometimes other snacks like ask her to goreng some
kuih, so she gets to eat also.
And we buy her nasi lemak (with chicken.. hubby insist) during weekends.
Kinda to let her know that we give enough food to her, so dun come and kacau
ours. hehehe.
I used to live with my uncle who hired many maids during my 5 years stay with them and my uncle also never restrict them on any food in the house and so far I’ve not heard of the maid steal food or anything liddat… However, his next door neighbor actually charge/deduct the maid’s salary if she ate anything from the fridge (apple=50cents and etc…) so the maid will not dare to eat.
Maybe you can use it to scare your maid???
Or alternatively do as what mott said! Sure to work… even on myself!
deduct salary? no..no… i dun think this is legal.
starve her? I tot u r a Buddhist ?
send her back? n loose all the deposits and forever waitin for a replacement and all those training go to waste…no no
I am guessing she must still be quite young in her age.
‘Telling her many many many times” have not worked
may I suggest instead of telling her off.. educate her with simple manners and be patient. it will pay off. if i were to list all the mistakes my maids have done… my grey hairs will double1 haha
I guess you just need to be patient with your maid lor…..don’t make yourself getting old so fast :P….imagine, my sis’s maid…..it is recommend by my sis good friend, but, end up, we find she got RM 44 in her wallet, and my son RM 1 gone when she stay with us for 2 weeks!!!
Understand your geram feeling as I also experienced it before with my ex-maid. Betul-betul geram one. Somtimes this type of maid really ‘dungu’. Just kept yourself calm and cool.