Poor little abandoned QQ
Thanks for concern, and it made me just realizes that I have not been updating anything on my poor girl!
I admit, due to the lack of hands (or I should say the over-demanding twins who hardly sleeps), our poor girl has been put aside. Whenever she comes back from school, and wanna me to read with her, I got to tell her to wait as I am busy with the babies. Same goes when we voice our concern when she try show her “overly affection” to her brothers (by carrying them too roughly, rocking them until they could fly off their bouncinet).
But luckily for us also, there is a place to escape when she is not feeling happy with Mummy and Papa at home. Most of the time after lunch or when she feel unwanted, she would go to her ex-nanny’s house which is only 2 door away, at least for a few hours. *at least I could rest a bit and not having to spend so much pimple creams, hehe….*
Poor girl, with the twins now, I wonder how I can spare some time for her.
try your best ya. and i believe she is an understanding da-jie.
true, when new baby (babies) arrive, the firstborn has such a raw deal. When Ashley was young, Kimberly used to wait with her night time bedtime storybook opened out in her arms , for me to finish with Ashley so that I could read her a story before bedtime, and 9 out of 10 times, she doze off with the open book in her arm. I feel so guilthy about it all the time.
yes, u need to spend more time with qq esp when hubby is home, u can take her upstairs or anywhere quiet inthe hse to bond with her. the more you neglect her the more she will feel unwanted
Poor you have to juggle time between qq and the twins. Maybe you can make it a point to set aside 15 mins to read her a bedtime story everyday.
You have your hands full with the twins now so it must be difficult finding time to spend with QQ. Perhaps when your hubby is around to mind the twins, you can spend some time with her. Btw, you’ve got an award: http://a-moms-diary.blogspot.com/2008/08/friendship-award.html
Even you have no time for her.. Remember to tell her daily that you love her, hug and kiss her whenever you got time. As long as you showered your loves towards her, I believe she will understand …
Hmmm… on and off hug her and just spend a lil moment with her, so she won feel bad and unfair …. it need time, later she will understand .
that’s pretty sad to say…….but sometimes we’ll just hv to adapt to the changes in our surroundings! it’s pretty obvious that mummy has no choice but to attend to the new babies so i’m qq will grow up much after experiencing this episode…
there’s still long journey ahead, when d babies r older, mumy can always catch up back with qq, no worry ya…
when u settle down edi, then u will go back to her. Dun worry.
Poor thing, when the babies are easier to handle you can make it up to her
don’t worry, when the twins grow up, you will be very happy to see them playing together, now just a transition period..
It’s always the case when we have new arrivals at home. She will feel abandoned cos she doesn’t understand yet. Your challenge now is to make her understand and I think a hug and a kiss a day would make her feel loved.
Hopefully QQ can understand. But don’t forget to cuddle, kiss or hug her everyday.
Yes, just reassure her everyday that you love her. hug her, kiss her and once a while surprise her with gifts.
talk to QQ i suppose, make her understand maybe, tat mummy is bz
now…
In a way, she is at a better age to understand it, and I am sure she will know what you are going through
Maybe you can ask ur husband to spend more time with Qiqi when he is back from his work. Can ask Qiqi to help you to take care of her little brother together so that she won’t feel being left behind.
Maybe when you feed the twins, you can tell her stories?? but i know what you mean, i also side-tracked my elder son already liao
Chin Nee, working full time has taught me to steal time and spent quality
time with my girls, I proposed you fix a time for her, for me i fix 9.00 - 9.30pm.
No matter how tired I’m I will gather the girls and we’ll just chat. I take this
time to know what happen to them and to impart good values, hug and kiss them
and tell them how much I love love love….. them.
hahaha..good to read about qiqi
i miss seeing her photo 
i guess when u have a little time, just give her a hug or a kiss 
at least she would feel that mommy still have some time for her.
Oh poor QiQi looks like an abandoned girl…When ur hubby is back, ask him lend his helping hand a while then u can spend some quality time with ur lil girl!
understandable geh….. just get her involve in helping you with the twins & show that you still care for her, it should be fine QQ is a good girl
no worries, i’m sure she will understand
Get QQ to help out with the twins lor. make her feel important as a cheh cheh . mayb one twin u feed , the other you ask QQ to feed with bottle with the pump milk. Teach her to fold cloth diapers or do light bb massage for the twins , then she wont disturb u and at the same time you can bond with all 3.
Don’t feel bad. Once the twins are settled, you will have time for QQ again. For me, now i feel like i am spending more time with Br than Dy. As long as Dy is not fussing, if Br is demanding any attention, he gets it.
poor QiQi. however, guess it’s just for a temporary. Once everything settle down, you will get her back to your side.