Big gap vs small gap siblings
Many people tell me that I am lucky at least my elder girl is already 4 (at least more understanding) when I delivered the babies. Yes, unlike some elder siblings who still need to be carried by their overly tired preggy mummy, my girl can walk, eat, and play by herself without having me to carry her.
But on the other hand, she could endanger her own brothers. For instant, kind jie-jie will:
- rock the bouncinet so quickly and hard, until the baby on it almost fly away!!!
- carry the baby as she likes until sometimes my heart almost fall out
- take dangerous or sharp things near to the babies
Although we advice and tell her not to, but somehow, stubborn QQ will still repeat the same thing the next day again (probably they still do not understand the danger and consequences of doing such thing). She can be a great help at home, we still have to keep an eye on her all time, especially when she is over-affectionate with her brothers.
At the same time, she also wanna be mummy’s baby (worse still, always call herself the boys’ little mei-mei) so I have to:
- play with her
- feed her!!!! (she used to eat by herself before the arrival of the babies)
- shower her (she hates it when my maid shower her)
- make her milk (and hand it to her personally)
- at the same time, treat her like adult because she loves to have a share of my acne products!
So, if you think QQ is easy to handle now, now you know it is not really yeah….
Heheh..dun worry ChinNee….soon, she’ll get used to the twins being the babies..and she’ll do all those things by herself again. It’s just her way of telling you, not to forget about her..
take care, ChinNee.
I guess QQ is still a “baby” in her own sweet way afterall. She still needs all the tlc her mummy and daddy can give her. Hehehe. Good to hear that bigger toddlers makes life easy when having another baby. I hope Jon will be “mature” enough when I plan for my 2nd one.
from my experience of having a very close gap children, 1.5 years apart. i would prefer a bigger gap. we have someone to help us take care of the younger ones. anyway, now all 3 has grown up a lil bit, i’m quite free.
she is asking for ur attention
Big gap is of coz easier to manage. Small gap will have all the problems u mentioned above +++ A lot more other problems.
QQ is doing great. Don’t worry too much
*sweat* I scared edi.
Eh maybe its the tone la.. try and smile when u ask her dun do.. then she think she cannot annoy u and stop doing it edi.
i think big gap would b better in a way n im sure qiqi has been a great helper too….
starting is like that.. last time KW also like that.
but at least she willing to help you and sayang the babies, instead of hit them.
Tak apa lo, take it as if you have 3 newborns? *haha* And anyway, better pamper her now before she starts being picky of who to “teh”
is like that. what you’re doing with qiqi is good, spending more time with her … because it shows that she is still mommy’s little girl/baby.
My 3 years old doing the same also… always want to hug baby like a toy!!
I think Qiqi intention is good. She want to be helpful. Just that she over-doing it…Just remind her to be more gentle.
small gap better. the playing part is almost the same. if the gap is big, the older one is not interested to play with the younger baby.
QQ is good helper lor, can’t expect too much from kids. hehe…
You are right
QQ is trying to be helpful but doesn’t realize her strength. Just remind and show her how to be gentle lor…
I know I’m doing that (with dog owners’ help!) with Lucas for every little doggie he wants to pat!
Also, QQ is experiencing ‘dethronement’ which is the loss of being the child in your life. If you and Daddy can, reserve some time doing things with her ONLY for a bit (10 mins?) every day - she’ll get back on her feet again and be the big jiejie she is already
She’s want ur attention, i think is normal for a small kids to get jealous wan… give her some time .
I think its hard to avoid all those behaviour. They are still young to understand their own behaviour now. Try not to socld her too much but give her lots of hugs and kisses.
QQ wants attention I guess.
agreed wit Jasmine, too young to understand i guess
i guess having big gap is better than closer one… Looking at Miche’s comment, i’m really worry if i can cope with mine (different of 1.5yrs too).
At least, QiQi does help you out !!!
I’d rather a big gap. Mine is going thru the terrible 2s until i want to pengsan!
It’s normal that she wants attn from u. QQ is vy helpful but everything needs to be done under supervision. Still too young to u/std the consequences of some actions. Even my 5 yo is seeking attn at times. N I don’t really dare to leave her alone for too long with 2 yo didi.