Another tough decision to make
Yesterday we went to my gynae at private hospital to check the progress of the twins.
Pregnancy at 28weeks:
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- Each baby weights about 1.2kg(right weight according to info from babycentre)
- Heartbeat normal
- One head is positioning down (high chances of normal birth)
- As the weight is double and pushing down, they are now laying quite low.
Due to double of weight and size, the gestational age on the scan already show that the uterus maturity of 36 weeks currently. Normally for such cases, my private gynae would:
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- would prescribe daily medication up to 36 weeks to stop early labour, just in case it happens
- give steroid injection to mature the lung of the babies upfront
But because I would be delivering in a government hospital this time, my gyane dare not take the risk and interfere with this pregnancy.
On the other hand, the doctor at HUKM prefers to go as natural as possible, they do not encourage any sort of medication for twin pregnancy even though after I discussed with them.
- Do I, as a pregnant mother have the right to choose to take the medication privately at my own risk ? Should I take precaution while I still have the ability to control the situation? I do not wish history to repeat again as I had enough trouble with my previous baby.
- Or, should I just not do anything but go naturally and leave this pregnancy as natural as possible and let God to decide what’s best for me? And then blame myself for not taking any action should anything happen to them?
Am really tired with so many things to consider right now. Please tell me what would you do given in my situation?
Having battle with so many challenges at one time, I think I am going crazy and soon having wrinkles all over my face. Must really do a wrinkle cream reviews now to sort for the best help.
Or I think I really need to see a psychiatrist!
**hugs ang prayer for you**
It’s really a hard decision to make, chinnee. *BIG hugzz* May god blessed you ‘n your lil’ twin.
Dear, I’m speechless… but I will keep you in my prayers. Take good care!
Really not easy to decide. Take care.
If I were you, firstly I would check with both private & HUKM expert to see the impact of taking the daily medication, if the side effect is tolerable I will take it. I would believe this is the best for my twins.
About the steroid injection, I would believe the steroid injection is a MUST. I experienced bleeding during my 2 pregnancies, my private gynea as well as HUKM gynea both gave me that steroid jab just in case my baby born prematurely, at least the chances of surviving is higher. I would believe that the side effect is minimal as my 2 gals are living healthily. (If you wanna know more about the experience, I’m more than happy to share)
I’m not sure whether HUKM advice got any bias or not as you are under their ‘expensive studies’. Base on my past experience as a Science student, when we do an experiment, we would have to maintain all others fix, so that when we do a conclusion, it will be pretty sure that the result is a direct impact of the variable.
CN, for whatever outcome, don’t blame it to yourself. Is not your fault at all, AT ALL. I know is always easy to say than done, but we ought to accept the fact. That’s the fact of life.
Yah! One thing very important, for whatever treatment that you get from your private gynea, make sure you are clear & have a reports to show HUKM, as some of the medication can’t be overdose. This is also from my previous experience.
May you & family have a better life after tonight’s sleep.
The above is purely my personal view…
sorry for the broken english! I really don’t have the heart to check it! sorry!
I just hope that yesterday’s checkup is by mistake…
ChinNee, Keep you in prayer and please don’t ever blame yourself…You did your best…as a great mommy…
I know it’s hard decision. Things happen for reason, so follow your heart and take good care of yourself. Sorry, mine is not a very good suggestion or comforting words, but you are always in my thought.
Ya, follow ur mommy instinct. That’s the gift that God has blessed us with. Then leave EVERYTHING to God.
He is the Creator, in the end, is He who decides.
I blamed myself too when Clarissa has to wear specs but hubby reminded me that there is a purpose behind everything that happened. We will see the bigger picture or I call it blessing in disguise later.
Chin Nee,
You must stay as positive as you can be at this moment.
QiQi, your hubby and your twins need you at this moment. So, stay positive and try not to give yourself too much pressure.
Chinnee, don’t just make the decision. Please find out more from the internet. At least you need to know the effects and the consequences of each decision.
Get a second opinion and do what is best for your babies.
Chin Nee,
really sorry to hear bout this. Go get 2nd opinion and see how…i’m sure there are ways. Read more n find out more. Follow your mommy instinct. Take care
as for Qi Qi’s eyes, get 2nd opinion and find out how to correct the problem. My brother had lazy eye too, and we only found out when he was in secondary school…
err..very hard to tell u, u and hubby have to discuss and make your own decision.
but if i were u, i wld go to private hospital coz carrying twins la.. if only 1 bb, i dont mind going to govt.. but yet i still prefer private
Hi Chin Nee
For this weekend..just relax and calm yourself k! take lotsa rest. *hugs* *hugs*
Be tough Chinnee. I’m not so sure what happened during your 1st pregnancy, but why would you go for government then? Somemore you are carrying twins. I always prefer private gynae even though I know the equipments in govern hospital is the best. There are so many sad news from the govern hospital in handling babies.
Just trust yourself and do what you think is right. Good luck, fren.
Thanks Jacelyn.
It is something you and your husband must decide. I know it is tough now but I’m sure both of you have the will to see thru it.
it is so scary as if our kids future and life is in our hand
Chin Nee,
Natural is good, but not always the best…. just like my second one, I wanted to try VBAC from day 1 when I know I was pregnant, ended up i had to go for C-section which made me so sad… then doc told me my uterus was about to burst at my old wound during the c-section. i was happy i did not insist on natural birth but decide according to the situation.
So, Take a deep breath! go by your instinct. Seek help from GOD (I always pray/talk to QuanYinPuSa when my mind is screwed up).Read more as Knowledge is Power. All will be OK. My love to you and your twins!
There is no right or wrong afterall. Thanks to your sharing, and I think best if I just follow my instinct…
it really a tough decision, i hope you are fine now..Chin Nee…more hugs for you..
hubby and i thought and pray for you and your family. seek more opinions before deciding and trust your instinct. good luck and all the best
hugs to you chin nee. thinking of you always.
Hi, Chinnee. Don’t worry my friend, everything will be okay! I will pray for you and your twins.
I don’t know what to say, but just hope that everything will turn out fine for you!
talk to other twins mothers might help u with their experiences…
chinee, very sorry to hear that.. i know how tough it is for u now… try not to think too much and keep praying… i am sure God will b with u
After having gone through 3 pregnancies, I would say just go by your maternal instinct. If I were in your position, I think I will follow what my private gynae tells me.
As for QQ’s eyesight, don’t blame yourself. I always believe that everything happens for a reason.
If I were u, I’d go for a 3rd opinion. And the doc must be some1 who’s vy experienced with twins. Pls don’t stress urself up ya. Things will work out eventually, rmbr?
I don’t know what to say, perhaps it’s worth seeking a third opinion, and be guided by your instincts. Hope things will turn out fine for you, your twins and QQ. Will keep you all in my prayers.
u got to check with a few at least 2 more gynaes for 2nd & 3rd opinion and then get back to your gynae at HUKM. I’m wondering if Proffesor Adib is still at HUKM as she is very experienced gynae and is from my mom’s time when she was a nurse! So you can weigh what should be done by that time..all the best!
if it was me, i’ll go with what the gynae has to say……
cnee, sorry i’m late here….my heart sank too knowing what poor qq has been enduring, this is really sad…but am glad that u & huby are still not too late in doing corrective actions!!
as for yr twins situation, i think it is just right that i shared my experience.
frankly speaking, u had been doing great job so far compared to me…lots of surveys, studies & browsing for knowledges. do u know that during my time, i wasn’t hooked to the internet yet so i just “BLINDLY” relied on & followed whatever advice/perscription that my gynae gave!
at 32-33 weeks onwards, i already started to consume d daily medication to stop labour (i still keep the last pill with me) which i had stop taking on d day i’d been scheduled to check into d hospital. that night itself(when i didn’t take that medication), my labour progressed….
on top of that, once a week for the final 1&1/2 month, i had been given the steroid jab too until i deliver…as by maturing their lungs, this would increase d chance of the babies survival…i just head on d advice without further thoughts!! i still remember clearly what my gynae told me:
“if yr babies r born premature at 7 months, they will not survive (if not prepared)”
so maybe after all, what was suggested/recommended to you… did makes sense but it is also right that u do d necessary checking to feel more convinced!!
more opinions are no harm anyway…….good luck chinnee!!
hi chinnee,
here i share my experience of my twins pregnancy :
on 24-30weeks, my twins position was alright where 1 of them was positioning down. but at last trimester, both head positioning up. so no choice for me… i went for cesaeran with spinal anaesthesia so that i can be da 1st to welcome my twins
after all, i will NOT go for normal birth this time cos i scared of labour pain as this is my 1st pregnancy with twins. i totally no experience on giving birth. gynae told me that da risk if giving birth to twins is higher. also, chances of premature baby also higher. so i dun wan to take da risk. therefore, my due date suppose to be mth end but i c-sec on early of da mth. i know all government hospital wil encourage normal birth dat’s y i went for private :p
my gynae also give steroid injection to mature the lung of the babies. as usual i take medication like all mummies too. besides, i also facing rashes & constipation problem which is quite annoying.
being a mother is not easy… some more is mother of twins.. i understand ur worries.. hehe. i used to be panic like u now.. if u need advise or help, do look for elder, friends or anyone that u think can give u the strength!
my advise to u : don’t worry too much & enjoy ur pregnancy now! sure u’ll miss this moment
Chinnee, i’m late too. Hope every thing will be alright to you.
For my experience, i also given the steroid jab from about 28 weeks too until i deliver.Same as the reason from the above twins mum. I didnt know it will have any side effect but i 100% belieave that my gynae will take good care to both of us(me and the babies) and i didnt go do reserch.
It very lucky that i take that jab cause i delivered on week 35 and 1 of the twins having the lung problem (my hubby told me that the 2nd twin lung didnt function when came out and need vandilator(spell?)to help breath.)When hubby told me at the 1st day like that my heart was very pain and i cant even see them(after c-sec).You know what i think that time? I thought i will lost 1 of them.Luckily it just need 2 days vandilator and the baby was find.
For both pregnancy i didnt look for gov.But i know it still have many good doctor there.It better you see both side so if you deliver at private hospital and anything need transfer to govement hospital they will accept you.(this i didnt know after i deliver my babies, didnt do any reserch about it)
Takecare and good luck to you.