Solution with greeting problem
Thanks all, for your help and solution on how I can guide my girl to learn to greet.
It really hurts me a lot, as a mother, to see my own child so sad over this little issue due to the adult’s pressure.
Unfortunately, not every adult (especially our close relatives) can understand how little issue like that can be traumatic for little growing up toddler, who tends to become shy as they grow and aware their surroundings.
However, ignoring and just let her be the way she is isn’t a solution as she has to grow up and facing the world. Nor does threatening helps.
With more patient and time, I spoke a lot to her on this matter these 2 days, softly and heart-to-heart. She seems to understand now the importance of greeting people she meet. There is some improvement today, and she begins to greet her nanny and her hubby again (*softly*) when we went there in this evening.
I will coach her closely again, and at least get her to greet her teachers the first thing when she reaches school in the morning.
Hope this time when she goes back to hubby’s hometown, she would master her manners well.
Hi! Thanks for stopping by me blog. Joanne is a sweetheart isn’t she!
yes, she is
Give QiQi some time…Jeriel also same shy shy…
hehe…these monkeys…really pretending hor….
good to hear some improvement on qiqi… not an easy job ya as a parent, lots of thing to learn from each other
luckily got u all around to give me some tips!!
Your effort will bears fruit soon, Chinnee, just be patient.
haha…i remember i m not much better either ….
Yeah.. threatening wouldn’t help. Good that u’ve talked to her n let her know y she needs to greet ppl. XY sometimes refused to greet ppl too (even tho we’ve talked abt it b4 the guests arrived). She’s just too shy. But once she’s warmed up, she’ll be vy fren with them n calling ‘Aunty this… Aunty that’. So no worries. Let QQ slowly overcome her shyness.
yeah….guess i need to be patient with her….
You know, at least you experience this, and in future, you will be expert mom in coaching your 2 twins!! And, you should indirectly thanks QiQi for giving you lots of ‘homework’ to do before arrival of 2 boys
haha….i bet they wont be the same!
yep, explain n talk to her nicely. I tried that on Mika n it’s working. need to remind him again sometimes! dont worry, it’ll soon be better. sometimes it’s not that they don wan to greet, just being shy. esp when there’s no eye contact. patience…that’s wht us moms need hor??
thanks a lot…..some kids tend to be shy than the rest….so happen my girl fall into this cat….jst gt need some time on her…
It doesn’t matter Chin Nee………QQ is still so young. Tell QQ Aunty Paik Ling buy her one big bottle of vitamin C when she meets her ok!! I very geram with your aunty lah…… grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
alamak….Aunty Paik Ling, u spoil QQ liao lor…hehe
Take it easy Chin Nee, last time my niece also like that but now she will greet everyone as loud as possible. Yes, encouragement is important & it’s just a matter of time.
thanks Dora….hard to push kids also hor…
After reading your previous post and lost on the comment i made due to sudden drop in my 3G…. I hope I can say this here.. quickly..
CN, my friend, you’ve done a good job here. All parents want their child(ren), to follow whatever their sayings and wish them all the best in the world.. however, this not gonna happen in real life… without the caring and patient parents guiding them. Pat yourself on the shoulder, you did well. You give others motivation and useful tips to counter this obstacle we been having as parents. Well done.
hand in hand…we support each other la…
take it easy cnee….
waaa…..
Well done QQ. Just keep your effort. Papa & mama wish her morning, thank you, during dinning time, going out & etc. I bet she will influence by you.
haha…hopefully!!
how about start at home first?
yeah…we shud…
kaka, its jus a passing phase. my gorgor oso suddenly becom very shy when he’s 2yr old.
but turnin 3 bcom a parrot, cos we always greet other relatives, so he oso learnt to b like us. when reached other’s house, he will automatically call out those he knew.
thus, we parents settin the example for their little detectoing eyes is the best sollution. no matter how much talk u hv wif her, its jus talk, action speaks louder than words!!! but in sch, he nvr dare to say ‘good morning’. sigh, think mainly my fault cos i nvr had the habit of sayin it or loudly enough.
actually, i nvr tot of greein been a problem. hehe, until i saw ur post.. now, didi is 18mths n repeatin us like parrots. (2nd child usu learn faster, take note!! :p) so i m orady saying ‘thank you n pls’ to him. hopefully like gorgor, he will learn to say it back to me when he’s ready.
yeah…i think example is important
actually i dont see this as a serious prob, she may just be shy for her age. if i see kids above 7 or 8 yrs old and dont greet ppl even after the parents tell them to do so, then i would think that they err.. have no manners, rude?
hehe…not young liao lor…age 4….but it all depends on family pressure…
don’t worry she will get used to it. maybe when she will overcome her shyness, you will not have a problem with that anymore. I always remind my kids to kiss our relatives or my friends we see them, now they’re getting used to it and it’s already automatic
i hope so this shy girl will grow out of her shyness soon….
I have the same prob with my children. Emily is not shy, she just refused, period.
kids have their own mood also….