Crazy mothering moments
I don’t know what’s going on with me, or rather my timid girl. She has been attending to her music class for 3 months, and until today, I still have to ACCOMPANY HER IN THE MUSIC ROOM. And I am the only mother who is still doing that, despite my girl is one of the OLDEST in her class.
This evening, they had a rehearsal for the coming Christmas Musical Concert. To make place for all the kids, parents have to leave. I know for sure I won’t be able to go so I stand just about 5 metres away. ONLY 5 Metres away!
Guess what, she started to sob and then came running to me crying loudly. That BIG BUFFALO!! Imagine the disgrace I had. I was so mad that I gave her a big slap on her buttock that made her fly off the floor. Can you imagine how mad I was?
I had to threatened her that mummy will walk out the door and she will no longer sees her mummy if she don’t obey. Then baru she “kuai-kuai” go back to continue her performance (play) while sobbing.
I really cannot imagine what would happen when she starts school next year. It is time to leave her to cry all she want. I know it’s not going to help by giving in anymore. Probably some of you would agree with me.
I have yet to experience the above situation. Hmmm… perhaps a lot of prep talk at home might help, can consider bribing her.
haha…i am resorting to threaten her now!
Oh….go read my latest post….I also beh tahan redi….
pussy cat one? thats so cute!! really can’t wait to see you this week!
wei, why slap her butt? You know, hubby had accompany wien to Sunday class for nearly one year ler. Then only she allow papa go home and she alone in class. Be patient and give Qi Qi more time.
Now i am having problem with Lyon. *sigh*
the teachers in school wont allow that long. anyone i do not have so much patient to accompany her one year also…hehe
Aiya, next time just drop her off and leave the place. For sure she will not be crying. She only lau kai you now.
I guess so, Vien, really ah…
Try to leave her alone. Just tell her that mommy is just behind the door & if you need me, you can always come out. Don’t cry.
still trying hard
alamak..poor qiqi, but why slap her butt le? She already so scare there, you should “tam” her more than slap her. Having said so, i understand the situation, the more you “tam” the more she “lau kai”.
yeah, u are right, huisia. she is oni lau kai la…not becoz she dont enjoy staying there..
hmmm… seem like not an easy job for u to deal with ur QIQI .. i realize it’s been a while u have problem with this . Hv to be with her during her class or school. Agreed with u , motherhood can sometime drive us crazy la…. “started to worry abt my lil noti boy now”
u can see it obviously hor, anggie….i notice boys are much better…
Hey Chinnee, I haven’t gone thru this situation yet but I think a heart to heart talk will definitely soothe her, give her more confident that she can do it even without Mommy around. I will use ellyleow advice. Keep reminding her before she goes to Music class next time and make sure she agreed with your suggestion.
Sean used to be very cranky when I leave him downstair and he started crying. After several times of reminding him that Mommy will return, Mommy just go up and talk something. He stopped crying and “kuai kuai” waiting for me downstairs.
so pandai la yur lil Sean!
we think as mothers we all got our crazy moments lah….motherhood is the ultimate test of our patience!
yeah…it is, REALLY!
aiyoyo poor chinnee…. though my boys r naughty, they(esp.scot) also behave like qq in their music/drama classes.
but in actual fact, my boys r neither scare nor dislike the lessons….they just simply ‘lau kai’!!
as i know they always try to be funny with me around, i no longer bother if they scream/cry, i will just leave the place very very quickly as soon as they step into the centre! without me around, teacher said they can be angel & more concentrating…..
udrstd yr torment(as i’ve been there too) but dun give up… and time to be more stern, good luck!!
after so long torturing myself and qiqi, i guess being hard is the fastest way to quickly get over with these nonsense
U must be really mad that day. But when they test our patience to the limit, that’s wat they get.. a good spank. hehehe Hope u’ve talked to her abt it after u’ve cooled down.
I had, but i hope the words get into her…
I know how you feel, I have walked your path many many times. JS was or rather still behave like that. Last Christmas she too was suppose to perform on stage, but I failed to get her up to stage for rehearsal wheares all her classmates happily went up to perform. There are many more mad moments like those happening still.
Oh Elaine, why can’t a mother’s journey be easier?
aiyo, poor qiqi, mummy was not in the good mood…
me, juz left my boy with the teachers, he cried for a while at the beginning few days…later no more. Of course, once in a while he would refuse to go to school, esp when he didn’t get enuf sleep, but when I mentioned his best friend’s name, he would quickly get up…hehe
haha….must find the “hot button” yeah!
adoi…sakit..but then need to be stern la…for her own good also
mummy beh tahan liao, really
The performance might have made her nervous. I think all parents have been through it, but the teachers have all told me that once the parents leave the children calm down and get back to business. I suppose the sight of “mommy” makes them think that if they cry they might get out of doing what they don’t want to do.
Good luck and I hope things get better! Claire
Hi Claire, thanks for dropping by. I know kid shud be able to do better without their mummy, but it is so hard and painful to let go. But i know I would have to, otherwise the pain will even dread longer
Well, she is big enough to be alone in class, try to let go. Cry is nothing, just let her cry. Later she get to adapt the place well she will stop crying..I know this is very “yan sam” did, but what to do for her own good.
oh Judy, I am scared she will get frightened. But prob it is also time to let go
right, i was about to say that. I read somewhere that it’s better to leave them crying, they’ll get tired anyway, rather than use that crying moment to their advantage.
Don’t worry Chinnee, every kid go through that phase…so does all the mothers out there. I agree, motherhood is frustrating.
Girlie, sometimes i really envy you. For now you are able to enjoy more since the babies days are over now
I’ve gone thru with what u are experiencing with QQ. I had my worries leaving my kid alone without me too. It’s always the case dat when mummies are around the kids will be very ‘lau kai’ but once u leave them with the teachers (or whoever), they’ll be obedient and behave and even enjoy themselves.
It’s always very disheartening when our kids put on a very pitiful look and we’ll give in in which I’m sure it’s very wrong. FYI, I even cried when I left Des at school the very first day cos she was screaming for me when she couldn’t see me but no choice I had to leave. She still cried the 2nd day but the 3rd day she was okay. I even called her class teacher to enquire how Des was doing and she told me Des was doing fine. Dat was indeed a great relief.
QQ knows dat u are always around and will definitely run to u when she sees u, u have to let go and just have to leave her with the teachers and let her know she has to go to classes WITHOUT mummy. I know it’s always easier said than done but still u have to do it. She’ll come to learn to adapt herself. U don’t have to worry, I’m sure the teachers will know how to handle QQ. After for some time, I’m sure QQ will come home telling u the happenings in the school - with whom she made friends with, what she ate, what the teachers taught her etc, etc, etc.
Mummy has to learn to let go and QQ has to learn to be alone without mummy accompanying her in school.
Tracy, appreciate so much for your sharing. It isn’t easy to let go, is it? I will try my best, if Destinee can do it, am sure QQ should be able to also.
aiyo, don’t threaten her and sakit lorrr the butt! i believe you can talk to her nicely since she understands more now. I even have one 3 year old happily to attend music class alone as long as they enjoy… don’t threaten, she will feels being force to attend the lesson.
soft tak makan, got to use hard way lor…
i think she manja u lah…so u gotta snake out kekee…i think i’m quite lucky, faythe is pretty ok so far in sunday school, we just bring her up dump her there and she’s instantly part of the class…totally forgot bout us :S
so pandai faythe :p
Aiks! Take it easy friend….
I think Qi-qi is still very frighten… maybe she had some bad experiences which you may not be aware of?
Maybe you can just leave her there while she is not watching and see how she takes it… she may runs out or she may remain in the class… so you take it from there and explain to her that when she don’t sees mommy, she has to stay in the class till mommy returns… if she takes to the ‘go look for mommy’ decision. Good luck!
dono why, this gal macam a bit susah to deal with…*blame on her father!*
You have to be slightly hard-hearted when coming to this issue. Leaving her alone in the class (crying) doesn’t make you a bad mummy. You need to let her know and understand that you have to leave. Qiqi should be able to understand at her age. Because she knows that you wouldn’t leave her alone if she is crying. Thus, you are having this problem now. Just give her lots of assurance that you will be definetly back for her and wouldn’t leave her there. After saying bye to her, walk away and don’t turn back. She will be fine after a few weeks.
Good Luck! 
really giving me nightmare this gal!
For me, I wouldn’t encourage to disappear when she is not watching. I think it will frighten her even more. Just hug her and tell her that you are leaving and will be coming back for her. (bla bla bla) After you say BYE, don’t turn back even if she is crying
When you pick her up, let her know that you nvr bluff her. You came back for her. Praise her for being able be in the class without you.
It will get better each day.
I do hope so, thanks a lot, Jasmine!
Maybe, QiQi need more assurance from you….I think she know she is apple of your heart…try talk to her nicely, give her some firm reason why she need to be independent, I think by now, at age 3, she understand command, instruction, etc…
she just wanna manja la…haha….
No worries, I long ago plan to leave my Xuan Xuan in the class, let her cry as much as she likes…
Guess years years back i used to be like that…and still surviving till today & is a mom of 2~
So I guess…crying won’t make harm *hopefully*
shud be ok, but very sam tong ler…